I am happy to provide for myself and the people I love.

Parents do a particular arithmetic at the table without anyone seeing it. Serve everyone else first, look at what's left, decide they weren't very hungry.

Providing is one of the deepest pleasures available and one of the easiest to overdo. The person doing it can disappear into it entirely, until nobody in the house could say what they actually like.

Being provided for is its own skill, and it's usually the provider who never learned it.

Put yourself on the list. You're on it by right, not by permission.