I approach myself with patience and understanding.

Notice the difference in the timescales you hand out. A friend going through what you are going through gets a year, several bad weeks, and a great deal of understanding about why it is taking so long.

You get about a fortnight before the questions start.

Patience with yourself is not indulgence. It is applying the same arithmetic you already believe in when somebody else is the one recovering.

Try it literally sometime. Describe your situation out loud as though it belonged to a friend, then listen to what you would tell them.