I see the good in others.

The colleague who irritates you most probably also stayed late in March to fix something that wasn't theirs. Both facts are true and only one of them is in the file you keep.

Seeing the good is not a decision to be naive. It's usually a correction. Most of us hold immaculate records of how people have annoyed us and very patchy ones of how they've helped.

Pick somebody you've quietly written off and try to recall one specific kindness. If nothing surfaces, it may be that you were never keeping that column.