My partner is my soul mate and we love each other purely and unconditionally without judgment

Soul mates are made more often than they are found. Four thousand breakfasts will do it: the same kitchen, the same small negotiations about the window and the radio.

Loving anyone without judgment, continuously, is beyond most people. What long couples manage instead is a fast return. The judgment happens, and then it gets put down, sometimes within the hour.

That recovery speed matters more than never having the thought at all. Purity is a poor standard. Reliability is a good one.

The match was not a discovery made once. It is something the two of you keep assembling.