When I feel overwhelmed, I will choose a healthy way to cope.

Nobody makes a good decision at the peak. At the peak you take whatever is nearest — the phone, the fridge, the argument you did not need to have.

Which means the actual choosing gets done on a calm Tuesday, when you put the trainers by the door, move one person's number to the top of the list, and settle in advance that a walk to the end of the road counts as coping. The version of you who is going under does not have to be resourceful. That version only has to reach for something somebody already left within arm's length.