I am happy to be completely myself in the relationship without being unrighteous judged

Everyone has something they brace before revealing. The birdwatching. The fear of the dark that never quite went. The music you would be embarrassed to have playing when somebody walks in.

Being able to leave all that uncovered in front of one person is a specific and underrated form of rest. Not admiration, exactly. Just the absence of an audience you have to manage.

If you have it, name it as the rare thing it is. If you are still bracing, start with the smallest item on the list.