I embrace love and happiness because that’s who I really am.

Who you really are tends to show up in defaults rather than decisions.

Watch what your face does when a particular name comes up on the phone. Nobody chose that. It happened before any deliberation, which is precisely what makes it evidence.

Most people have a stack of these — the reflex to hold a door, the instinct to check on somebody. Individually they are unimpressive; together they are a character. If you want to know what you actually are, that is the file to read, not the one where you catalogue your failures.