I am a loyal friend and partner.

Somebody in your life knows the date of your mother's operation without having written it down anywhere. They will text that morning. Loyalty is almost entirely made of attention, and attention is the part that cannot be faked.

Anxious people are frequently very good at this and very bad at receiving it, because being carried registers as a debt being run up. Worth noticing: when you do the carrying, it does not feel like a debt at all. It feels like the point.