I easily release tension when I am feeling stressed out.

Pushing hard at a door marked pull is a complete waste of a good effort, and the harder you push the more certain you become that the door is jammed.

Much of what gets held is like that. Real effort, correctly felt, applied to something that was never going to answer to effort. It is easiest to set down early, in the first minute, before it has been carried long enough to feel like part of your posture.

Catching it early is a skill rather than a talent, and it improves roughly in proportion to how often you remember to check.