I release any desperation and allow love to find me

In an interview you want too much, you talk faster, over-explain, agree before the question has finished. Longing does the same thing outside the interview room.

Releasing it doesn't mean pretending you don't want someone in your life. It means putting the want somewhere it can't run the conversation, and filling the calendar with things that have nothing to do with finding anybody.

That isn't a technique for being found, and anyone who sells it as one is selling something. It is simply how you stay recognisable to yourself while you wait, so there is a person here worth meeting when somebody finally does.