My emotions are carefully regulated to create a healthy atmosphere inside and near me.

Regulation is not suppression, though from the outside they can look similar.

Most people have eaten dinner in a house where one person's mood set the temperature for everyone — where the whole table monitored a face to work out what sort of evening this was going to be. That is what unregulated feels like from the receiving end.

The alternative is not a flat calm. It is feeling the thing fully and not making everyone else responsible for it. Your weather reaches the room. Knowing that is most of what it takes to stop the room bracing.