Our relationship is very important to me and my partner.

Both of you saying it is one thing. Both of you acting like it is another, and the second is where the work actually sits.

Watch what gets declined. A Saturday shift turned down. A phone that stayed in a coat pocket through dinner. A conversation that could have waited until neither of you was tired, but didn't. Nobody announces any of this. It just accumulates.

Shared importance is rarer than it sounds. Plenty of couples have one person carrying the whole weight of caring while the other assumes it is being handled. When both are holding it, the thing stops needing rescue and starts needing maintenance, which is a much better problem.

Ask what you protected for it this week.