The hardest attachments aren't things. They're identities — the version of yourself you defend at parties, the field you're known for, the plan you've announced often enough that changing it would require explaining.
Goals get held back by sunk costs more often than by obstacles. Nine years in something makes year ten difficult to question.
Ask one uncomfortable question today: if you weren't already the person who does this, would you start? A no isn't an instruction. It's information you've been avoiding.