I allow my thoughts to drift to a positive and peaceful place

Drift isn't something a person does. It's what happens once you stop rowing, which is close to the only instruction available here.

A mind under no particular pressure tends to wander somewhere ordinary and mild — a room from a holiday, a job you'd like to try with wood. Under pressure it wanders to the unpaid bill and the thing you said in 2016. Same mechanism, different current.

So the lever is rarely the destination. It's the pressure. Ten minutes with nothing being demanded of you — not a phone, not a task, just a chair by a window — and the drifting usually sorts itself out with no steering at all.