I create my own happiness in my life

You can't order the feeling directly, but you can build the conditions and then wait nearby, which turns out to be almost the same thing done more slowly.

Most of it is unromantic. People who seem to have plenty of it are running maintenance underneath — the same three friends seen regularly, something done with the hands, sleep treated as non-negotiable rather than heroic. None of that appears on a list of ingredients for a good life. It is the whole list.

Making conditions is still available on days when making the mood isn't. That's the part that matters most, because those are precisely the days it gets abandoned.