I am attracting a trusting, loving marriage.

Trust isn't decided at an altar. It gets assembled out of extremely boring evidence: somebody said they would call at seven and called at seven, mentioned the money problem before it became a crisis, told you the unflattering version of the story.

Each instance is too small to mention. A few hundred of them is a marriage you can lean on.

Useful early, when you are still trying to read someone. Don't weigh the declarations. Watch what happens to the small promises across one ordinary month.