I am deserving of a happy healthy relationship.

Nobody writes songs about the healthy part. It behaves like the smoke alarm you test twice a year: no drama when it works, and everything depending on it anyway.

In practice it means the argument ends rather than going underground. The money conversation gets had. The resentment is said out loud in week one instead of stored until year three.

Asking for that is not setting a low bar for yourself. It is asking for the thing that lets the happy part last longer than a season.