I am overcoming my fear by pushing through it.

Anyone who has learned to swim as an adult knows how this actually goes. Not one heroic leap into the deep end — a step further out each week, until the depth that terrified you in March is where you stand to chat in July.

Pushing through has a reputation for being violent. Mostly it's incremental, and it works better that way. The nervous system updates from evidence, and evidence has to be survivable to count.

So find the version of the frightening thing that's one size larger than what you managed last time. That's all today has to be. One size larger.