I feel good being intimate with my partner

Intimacy has a narrow public definition and a much wider private one. Some of it happens in a parked car with the engine off, neither of you talking, neither of you uncomfortable.

Feeling good about it depends less on technique than on not being watched critically, by them or, more commonly, by yourself.

Bodies change, moods vary, and there are long stretches where none of this is simple. The steady thing underneath is being at ease in the same space as someone who is not assessing you.

The silence the two of you can share is usually a fair indicator of the rest.