I give my relationship the attention it deserves

Attention is not the same as time. Two people can spend a whole evening in one room, phones face up, and give each other perhaps four minutes of it.

Relationships that feel tended usually run on small deliberate blocks: the twenty minutes after dinner when nothing else is allowed in, the question asked a second time because the first answer was the polite one.

You probably cannot find more hours than you have. You can hand over better ones. Choose a stretch today and put the phone in a different room for it.