Profound changes are almost invisible while they are happening.
Someone who has stopped drinking did it on an ordinary Tuesday, then again on the Wednesday, and the ordinariness is the point. There was no scene. There was a phone call not made and an evening got through.
Power, here, does not feel like power. It feels like doing one small unremarkable thing at the single moment it counts, usually while tired and unconvinced it matters.
The profundity only shows up much later, when someone who hasn't seen you in two years says that something about you has changed and cannot say what.