I own my power and recognize the strength inside me.

Strength is a load-bearing property, which means it stays invisible until something is placed on it. Nobody knows what a shelf will hold by looking at it.

Which is why the discovery is nearly always retrospective and slightly surprising — you find out what you can take by having taken it, usually while assuming throughout that you were about to give way. Owning it is mostly a matter of updating the estimate afterwards, rather than letting the frightened version of the account stand as the official record.