The problems you’re having aren’t worth it, especially breaking your family.

Pressure has to go somewhere, and it usually goes to whoever is nearest. Money trouble gets said out loud as a remark about the dishwasher. Fear about a diagnosis comes out as sharpness at a fifteen-year-old.

Things said in the worst month are difficult to unsay, which is an argument for putting a gap between the feeling and the sentence. Not swallowing it. Naming what it's actually about, out loud, to the person: this isn't about the dishwasher.