There are no problems, just obstacles I can overcome.

Some things get solved and some get outlasted, and from the inside the two feel completely different. Solving has a satisfying click.

Outlasting has no click at all. One morning you simply notice the thing is behind you.

Grief works the second way. So does most debt, most recovery, most of a bad job you can't leave yet.

Both count as getting past it. If the current one has no obvious lever to pull, that isn't a failure of nerve — it's the second kind, and the second kind gets worked with time rather than force.